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Wow. That was the absolute Truth.

Thank you for your valuable insights. I appreciate your help. I’ve only just discovered your content today. This is the third video I’ve listened to. I’m feeling so much better. I was discarded by my narc bf 10 days ago after two and a half years, out of the blue. Though he has never been mean or cruel to me outwardly he was never able to emotionally connect. The relationship was so unfulfilling after a while. It had me feeling so empty when I wasn’t with him. He was so attentive, funny and fun most of the time. I realize he wasn’t genuine. Looking back I now see the signs that were staring me in the face. I have to take ownership for that part but I’m starting to know I shouldn’t take it personally. I loved with my whole heart - he wasn’t capable of reciprocating. The sex was robotic because there wasn’t an emotional connection on his part. I’m curious if you have any insight into how to better vet someone in the early stages of dating someone to recognize the signs of a narcissistic personality. Thanks again.

Wow, nothing but a body in a relationship? Sometimes they are good for a free meal. Once a decade or so

Difficult to answer this question because there were so many times/things that were so “not right”. One was … we had just started living together and he started screaming at me for no reason at all. This was the first time he had gotten really nasty with me. I remember feeling shocked! I said “ I can’t believe you are treating me like this.” And his response was “oh shut up!” Up until this point it was still all love-bombing, etc. After I got him to calm down (it was strange…he even seemed confused about his own behavior) I looked at him and said “don’t you love me at all?” And he looked at me all exasperated and said “I don’t think I would even know what that is”! This comment scared me because it felt very truthful. At this point I knew I had made a big mistake moving in with him, but I had taken such a stand about being with him to virtually everyone I knew…I felt trapped. I had moved out of my parents house to live with him and didn’t see how I could tell them I wanted to come home…because I didn’t. They are both narcissists too. It was awful. I remember the feeling well.

The roosters had a word today huh?

Losin illusion

That's terrifying, and I now believe it's true. That's all they are, there is nothing deeper to them 😢

Thank you little shaman ❤

Four and a half years ago, I realized all I was to my sister was a thing to be abused. I am everything she wishes she could be - intelligent, creative, driven, etc. I was her narcissistic target. When I went into therapy for the neglect and abuse all of my siblings and I endured, she ridiculed me, saying that I'm crazy. She even ridiculed the fact that I took an antidepressant. Every interaction was the same - she would call me names, put me down, say nasty lies about me she claimed to hear from someone in an effort to get a rise out of me. Sixty-three years I put up with it until 2019, when I told her I was done with it and wanted her to leave me alone. I had to address the Facebook smear campaign with legal action, but the peace and quiet these last 4 1/2 years has been worth it. She has tried to get back into my life, but I just ignore her efforts. My mental health is worth.

I have listened to this so many times because it finally provides an understanding of the total chaos and confusion. Plus jt explains the lack of substance I experienced constantly. QUESTION for LS - Does the Narcissist know they are mimicking? Do they know they are faking it all or is it more like they don’t know because they have never been any other way.

One Narcissist I knew told me his late wife wouldn’t let him touch her and she was ill for years , she eventually died and I believe his negative energy field had a lot to do with it.

I need to watch this 100 times! To get it through my thick head and stop being so sad about my divorce! We divorced 4 years ago and I’ve had a hard time letting it go! And I also can’t make sense of why because I KNOW of all of the horrible things about him and the relationship…it’s really done a mind fuk on me and I can clearly see it all comes from my childhood and even though I KNOW this! It doesn’t help to heal and resolve my pain and anger over this divorce 🙄

I'm fucked up, I can't even have a conversation with a woman 45 minutes without diagnosing her, let alone without her figuring it out that I'm a nut case

Do you have any videos on recognizing narcissists in everyday life? I am divorced from a diagnosed by a doctor Antisocial personality disorder person, was with him 23 years, free now, Praise God🙌🙌 I am really having a hard time recognizing narcissists? Thank you for all that you do to help survivors, I appreciate you so very much 🤗💕your videos are helping me in my healing journey.🙏🤗💕💪

Thanks sis cyn ⚡

Amen!

So so good. The narcissist is waiting for someone projection on their blank screen. Perfect, perfect explanation. Wow, just wow. Thank you , thank you LS🙏💪💕🤗This makes perfect sense.

Thank you.

I appreciate you so much!!🩷

Wow! That explains a lot! Knowing the facts makes it easier to leave.

This is one of many of your podcasts that I need to hear repeatedly.

Got discarded so horrible 😢don't know how ro survive. Much love from Germany ❤

Dump an uncomfortable weight and flush 🚽

I have been listening for awhile and its like an older sister or aunt talking to you. I am at the point where his nonsense does not trigger me anymore. I dont engage or defend. I do not care what he thinks anymore. Im going on a trip and never coming back. Then i want to be single for awhile to figure out who i am again. Is there a dating app for people recovering from dating meanie pants people? 😊😅

This is part of a point I convey to other victims. You are conned to fall in love with YOURSELF mirrored back to you. This knowledge can be used for healing. Any positive feelings you may have (or have had) for the narcissist are actually positive feelings for yourself. All of the power/praise/credit that you have given to the narcissist was actually stolen or conned from you. You are the one who earned it. That esteem belongs to you, and once you realize it, your healing journey will be GREATLY nurtured. The esteem was yours all along and you just didn't know it.

Losing a narcissist is not a lost due to the fact the relationship was fake the hold time anyway so for me it’s not hard to move on. And that’s what I did

"Know thyself." <3

The only way to win, is to not play the game.

1 billion %

They keep moving the goal post.

Thank you for your work. I am 50 years old and am just realizing why i am so confused and afraid in general. I grew up in an incredibly disfuntional, cruel, house of mirrors. I then went into the world, unhealed, and found more bewildering painful relationships. I can finally, finally, have a lense to view my extremely traumatized mother and now, myself. Finally, clarity. It is so sad; full of so much sorrow, but the truth is freeing and healing. Thank you. You are saving my life.

True

I am so thankful he left me it really was a blessing for me. I am at peace again.

whoa

"the empty screen" = their needy searching give- me-something- to-be black hole eyes always asking for more more more give me a definition of a self

So true. It’s hurts but it’s a blessing. They lose us, we were the loyal, supportive ones. He would’ve only brought me down. Someone who is critical of you and doesn’t see your value can kick rocks. I don’t need anymore Judas’s or happiness haters, success blockers in my life. Bye Felicia ✌️

Wow, that explained a lot about my marriage. My ex totally changed into something else after I left and disappeared. I mean that literally. Maybe I'll explain it if I talk to you again. The bottom line is that my ex was a textbook pathological narcissist. This also why being in a relationship with a narcissist seems so perfect--they are chameleons. They are nothings in reality. They are something that needs to be avoided.

You are brilliant

They are the walking dead. Literally. They sold their soul a long time ago. Blessings to all in this comment section. Renee from Southern California

Well the music we made for ourselves and other people that made people cry because they were so touched was real. I miss that very much

I've educated myself so much on cluster B personality disorders because both of my parents suffer from them. It's helped me immensely. I still notice a little part of me that's always been asking the same innocent question since I was a little kid: "What the heck is wrong with the human race and why can't we all just be nice to each other and ourselves?" What a wonderful world it could be.

Excellent insight and articulation as usual, LS! No real loss at all. If anything, liberating ourselves from their delusional world teaches us just how valuable we are to ourselves and our own authenticity. Much love and appreciation! ❤

That is all there is and less!

Another amazing explanation of these mysteriously deranged & destructive people. Thanks LS!!! Can't wait for group tomorrow 🤗

Leave the Loser…..Choose YOURSELF Definition of Loser- 1- A person who is incompetent, constantly fails, and is destined to disappoint 2- Someone who wrecks your confidence and Who’s keeping you from finding someone who deserves you

This is spot on as usual. There is no substance AT ALL and it really is obvious. The idealized version of yourself that they provided is really what you’re missing and grieving and once you truly face how fake that was as well you can move forward and heal the wounded parts of yourself that were intoxicated by that. I personally don’t miss the drama, chaos, nasty person or the fake person who was only mimicking my own identity.

Thank you. It was hard to listen to without dissociating, probably because it rings true.

"A relentless assault on Reality, Personhood and Sense of Self that literally never stops because they are dealing with someone who has a flexible relationship with the truth ( to put it lightly), and who even when they are not consciously lying cannot seem to perceive things accurately anyway." Bring back the Asylums.

Shit, they have enough personality to harrass me after I've left. These people are wack jobs

Thank you so much!